I have this friend, a guy, who is handsome that girl’s litterally drip in sight of him. He hangs out with them mostly and is always seen around them. But this guy met someone who he crushed on so deeply that her sight could melt his heart at an instant. But funny enough, the girl never gives him attention and doesnt give a fuck about him. And strange enough his always short of words whenever his around her. A guy whose never ever out of words. I guess his superpowers is in his tongue. Cos if this guy should flirt with you, be assured your right where he wants you to be.
So he finally gets to hang out with her and boom she falls in love with him. And she’s really the only girl his ever loved for a long time now. But for the few couple of weeks, the love went on being so nice and sweet but later on things began falling apart. She started with complains about why his always attracted to girls and stopped trusting him. So instead she decides to be sneaking up on him unnoticed to find out if his cheating or not. Then she notices an attachment between the guy and a girl. So she decides to go close to the girl inorder to go through her chats with him. And trust guys, even though we’re totally committed to a relationship, we get to flatter once in a while with other girls because we like complimenting on beautiful things. So the chat breaks her heart and she starts throwing up altitude, ignoring his text and calls. Then the guy finally approaches her and asked the hell’s going on. Then she starts with him being so selfish and inconsiderate. And yeah, pretty much, her mind was just based on the fact that he’s every girl’s crush. Her words really pierced his heart but instead of the guy to react on her going through someone’s chat just to check if his cheating and the fact of her not trusting him at all. But rather he chose to apologise, trying his best to make her understand. Now here’s the fun part, the guy who’s always so friendly with the ladies stops his old life style and decides to mind his business. He stops going to gatherings where the ladies are. He stops chatting most of them up, he stops anything that would make his love to get jealous. But she doesn’t realize that.
Now let’s stop here for a bit. It is true that girls in a relationship are mostly the jealous type yeah, and they have this inbuilt insecurities within them that makes them think, “ who’s he with, what’s he doing, who’s he talking to or has he started loosing interest ” and stuff like that. And they get over worried when they notice his hanging out with his bestie or someone his very close too. They might even start growing mutual hatred for the lady. But really, guys are like tiny ants that moves around, hangs out alot but at the end very loyal to their queen. For a guy to really be in love with you and proves it occasionally, he really means it, cos believe me, it’s really hard for a guy to fall in love with you no matter how beautiful or mannered you think you are. We may crush on you but that’s not love, love is something totally different from crush. Our love lives are just complicated but at that moment when the love falls in. He can pass through hell for you just to know your happy. No matter how close we get to our friends or besties, we always have you in our hearts.
And funny enough most of us guys learn to trust easily, and we become over confident in the girl we love. And that’s why we hardly get jealous, unless on rare conditions. And the fun part is that we get affected the most during a break up. Even though we tend to cover up everything as men we are. We try to hide our feelings from everyone as though nothing is touching us but deep down our hearts, the pains are unbearable. And another crazy fact there is that after that one day pain and shit like that, the next two days, we forget everything and we move on. While girls spend weeks, sometimes months and some years healing from a heartbreak. While we guys head on in finding someone who will be more better than the previous girl we had.
You do know that, It’s not just the girl that gets the whole attention, care and love. We guys are humans with emotions too. Maybe you complain on the fact that “he doesn’t give me the attention and care I need ”. So let me ask, why can’t you be the one to give the attention and care back. Sometimes we guys, just sit back to watch what would happen when we stop texting or checking up on you or giving you the attention you need. We watch to check if you would be that perfect girlfriend that would be really understandable to return the care and attention to us, treating us like little babies. And that makes you special and unique among all the girls his been with and he can never ever let you go no matter what happens.
Like I said Love is really sweet and romantic to be in. But it comes with its own stress and problem.